The vast majority of people who know they’re going to break up with someone experience huge feelings of anxiety and stress. This can often make the words come out wrong and seem harsh, when really they weren’t intended that way.
These anxiety and stressful feelings can often transfer to your partner, which can trigger instant feelings of defensiveness in them. Suddenly, the gentle let-down you envisaged has become a full-blown argument that leaves you both with feelings of resentment and anger.
It’s no wonder nobody likes the idea of breakups. Yet couples end up breaking up every day. It’s enough to make you wonder what pushes a person far enough that they’d willingly face something they hate just to get away from the relationship.
There are countless reasons why relationships end and couples break up, but there is an underlying statistic that is quite amusing when you think about it:
100% of divorces are caused by marriage
It sounds silly, but when you think about it, every single break up was preceded by a happy relationship between two people who initially were highly attracted to each other.
Somewhere in between, things went wrong. The lines of communication broke down. Arguments become more common and it’s suddenly easier to be apart than to live in an unhappy relationship. You lost that spark and the relationship ended up dying as a result.
Nobody likes the inevitable confrontation that comes from breakups. And yet deep down everyone seems to be seeking the same kind of loving, happy relationship.
Of course there will be times when you meet someone who just isn’t right for you at that point in your life. You’ll also face breakups with partners you truly loved with all your heart.
But the key to avoiding this kind of confrontation in the first place must be within learning ways to keep that spark live, learning how to appreciate the differences between men and women. When two people are willing to build a strong foundation for a long-lasting relationship, these things shouldn’t be difficult at all.